HOW TO MAKE HER DESIRE YOU

                                                                  

Know how they say that the path to a man’s heart leads through his stomach? Apart from that being true (I’m hungry again), you may still wonder what on Earth could be the path to a woman’s heart. It’s crucial! You just met this gorgeous woman, and you had the first date, and there’s a vibe, but where is the passion? The burning desire? That look she gets in her eyes when she feels it for you? You guessed it, it’s hiding within her, waiting for you to ignite it. Now think about this: when a woman cooks you your favorite meal, how does it appeal to your heart? It triggers your emotions. You feel all desired, loved and cared for inside. This is how to make her desire you, too: appeal to her emotions, not – as men tend to do – to her brain.

Making yourself desirable

Before a woman can desire you, you have to be desirable. I’ll remind you of an old piece of wisdom here: people do not desire what’s readily available to them. You were never interested in that clingy chick with the low self-esteem in seventh grade, were you? The really amazing women flirt with you, give you coy smiles, but make themselves a hard catch at the same time. You can do the same: there’s nothing wrong with showing a woman you’re interested in her, but she’ll have to put in some effort to get closer to you. How do you establish that? Three suggestions:

1. Validate your compliments.

What’s a compliment worth if it’s all you give? You lavish her with them, and she’ll feel bored, possibly annoyed. That’s why David DeAngelo, among others, advocates mixing compliments with slightly negative feedback. Instead of only complimenting her on the color of her eyes, you may well tell her “I love your eyes… it’s too bad your your blouse doesn’t match!” with a challenging smile. 

2. Exhibit social proof. Make male – and female! – friends that you can spend time with, and let others know that you have these amazing friends. If people enjoy being around you, you must be a cool person. This is also why it’s certainly not bad to have women around you: it will actually help you attract more. This is usually the easiest way to get girls to desire you. 

3. Enjoy yourself.

Positive vibes are attractive. A man who enjoys himself, who is happy about who and where he is, is naturally attractive. Don’t pretend to enjoy yourself for the sake of “becoming attractive”, but find genuine fun and passion in all your activities. When you are with or around a woman, and you feel comfortable and happy, it will show and rub off on her.

Desire breeds desire.

They say “you reap what you’ve sown”, and it’s true: women like to be desired. The catch is: we’re talking about being desired by a strong, confident, charming, charismatic man. That’s why I taught you all the hoo-haa above. Now let’s get to the meat: once you’ve teased her and established your booty, show her your desire hers.

a) Eye contact: establish those little pauses where you just look into her eyes without saying anything. When you have some intimate thoughts while you do that, they will show, and you will trigger the same in her, especially after you establish some familiarity.

b) Glances: look at her eyes, then her lips, neck, and back. She will notice your glances wandering.

d) Give her the gift of missing you: another idea that David DeAngelo advocates. Never

interact too long, don’t wear out your welcome. Quick dates during which you establish a great vibe before you “unfortunately have to go” will show that you have a life and leave her wanting more.

c) Simply say it: “I think you’re hot and I’m attracted to you.” Calling it as you feel it shows that you are in touch with your emotions, will make no excuses for them, and have the balls to voice them.  These are some indicators. They are far from exhaustive: the general idea, though, of how to make her desire you, is to be attractive on an emotional level. Get in touch with your emotions and live them, then communicate on that level with others. Think of emotionally or sexually charged stories to tell or quips to weave into a conversation and then spread them throughout your interaction with her. The key to getting women emotionally charged or sexually aroused, hence, getting her to desire you, is to steer her mind in that direction.  

HOW TO MAKE EVERY CONVERSATION MEMORABLE

Let me tell you about a small moment out of my day. I’m friends with a fun girl at work, and we joke around now and again. The other day as I passed by her – I couldn’t think of a thing to say or do to get her attention so I gave her a mischievous smile. 

Soooo….?

At first glance, this moment seems beneath notice: but it shouldn’t be, because this single, ridiculously small event is one of the myriad opportunities you have each day to spice up your encounters in return.  Every person’s day is full of dull, repetitive patterns, but if you put your mind to it, you can come up with a pool of original routines to make even the smallest everyday moments memorable. 

Take a couple days out of your own life and inspect them closely to find what the standard situations are: the girl in my office, for instance, will get tons of dumb smiles every day from people passing her by. If you are the one person that randomly shakes his head at her with a glance of disapproval, you will create a memorable moment – and a bit of mystery to boot. The idea is to be different than everyone else. 

What happens if you apply the same concept to conversations at parties or on dates? You will recognize that a lot of standard questions, especially when you’re meeting someone new: “how are you?”, “where are you from?”, “how old are you?”, “where do you live?”, are boring. Raise your hand if you’ve been there:

Her: so, what do you do?

You: oh, me, I study engineering. Yeah… I’m writing my final thesis right now, and it’s about, uh, car phone systems.

*R.I.P. – Hither lies the conversation, slaughtered by boredom.*

Instead, next time you’re in a similar situation, try this: “I’m a secret agent. I’m investigating this city’s female demographic. I need you to tell me about your favourite café.” Or tell her about your recent mission to Prague. Within a frame you set up, like the “Secret Agent”, you can easily come up with even more stuff as your conversation develops. Ideally, you’ll do something with erotic or emotional connotations. Doing this will be more memorable, stir up emotion and overall more enjoyable when you first meet. 

How about some of this:

When someone asks you: “What’s up?”

- Something good.

- A great mystery.

When picking up the phone:

- Municipal sewage facility, Brenda speaking.

- Talk to me, Alpha Six.

“How old are you?”

- [if you're clearly not 45] I’m 45. No, really. I moisturize. 

“Where are you from?”

- [if you're clearly not Asian] I’m from Japan.

David DeAngelo puts it this way: “Never give a woman a clear answer,

unless it’s ‘no’.” 

A good generic answer is: “Well why don’t you guess”. Or: “I can’t tell you that, it’s a secret.” You can follow it up later with: “Hey, another secret! Are you collecting those?” Also, call a woman by her name when you’re talking to her: “I like your shirt, Sarah.” (Pause) “Can I have it?. It adds a personal note, and if you just met somebody, it demonstrates that you cared to remember their name. People like hearing their name. 

You can and should pause, listen and think before you speak. The first thing that comes to your mind often isn’t the best thing to say, so don’t rush a conversation. With a bit of attention, you can spot hints and ideas in what she says and play with them, and if you don’t, you can take a beat to pull out one of your routines. Take the time you need until you have it down. With enough practice, being clever, witty AND quick will come naturally.

Of course, you can go out right now and use these examples to spice up your encounters. Ideally, though, you’ll come up with your own material to draw from. These are inspirations: think about their implications and what kind of mindset they come from. Go find witty answers for common lines such as: How do you do? Where do you live? When

you’re done with that, look for new situations in your day to prepare for.

There are no limits to your creativity, and that’s what is going to set you

apart!

HOW TO TALK TO ANY GIRL IN ANY SITUATION

Wouldn’t it be great if you knew how to talk to any girl in any situation? In a big city, you’ll see beautiful women every day – in the streets, on train platforms, in supermarkets, in cafés and restaurants. Most of us are really afraid to approach them: it might seem inappropriate, awkward, intrusive, she might be taken, a lesbian or a serial killer. We hesitate and hope for something to happen so we can easily talk to her – and then she leaves and we kick ourselves because in all likelihood, we just missed our one and only shot.

I’ll tell you what you can say to approach a girl. But before you even go there, you need to get the anxiety out of your system, and you achieve that by putting yourself out there and practicing. Here’s your first lesson for today: girls, no matter how beautiful, are people. So start the easy way, learn how to approach people! It’s so easy to have a nice chat with the dude behind you in line at the box office, or with the lady at the cash register.

Spark a great energy inside you.

In his work on Nonverbal Communication, psychology professor Albert Mehrabian found that only about 7% of the emotional meaning of a message is conveyed through words. 38% are “paralanguage”, i.e. the use of voice, and 55% are nonverbal communication, e.g. gesture, posture or facial expressions. Words have a ridiculously small impact on meaning! Instead, we communicate through our behaviour.

If you’ve ever taken acting classes, especially Improv, you will know that an emotion comes up for you if you spark the appropriate energy in your body first. Think of what you feel when you’re really happy to see, say, a great friend. The very instant you see the person, joy lights up in you and you cannot help but make a smile, there’s a prickle in your stomach or a tickle running down the back of your neck. You can put yourself in that state: start laughing by yourself, smile, trigger these physical states. The emotion will follow soon enough, and with it, fun and bright ideas will come up. You might still be nervous about approaching, but in this light, it won’t be anxiety: it will be excitement (think about it, your body signals both in similar ways). You can use that energy! Just stay genuine: don’t paste a fat smile on your face for the heck of it. Let your face mirror your emotions.

Approach people.

Now you’re in the right state to approach a stranger. Of course, you still want to know “what to say first”, right? In dating lingo, we speak of “openers”, and I advocate the honest, genuine and authentic ones. They come from your heart, not pre-scripted from somebody else’s mind. I’ll give you two, and for these, remember what we discussed about energy:

1. Walk up to the person and say “Hi!” or “Hey!” Simple as that. “My name is Brian.” Shake their hand. “What’s yours?” Now, what do you associate with the person’s name? Perhaps it has a meaning that you know (check out the etymology of common names), or they might have an exotic name. “That’s… No, let me guess: Iranian, right?” There’s your conversation. Now share something about yourself.

2. The observational opener: one of my favourites. A guy opened me up in a supermarket line because he saw a melon in my basket. You and I can do the same: notice something about the person, anything, and point it out. “Your jacket is beautiful, it shines in the sun and makes me think of summer.” What could this say about the person? “Hey, you must be a light-hearted person.”  

There are many more kinds of openers, opinion openers for instance, backhanded compliments, David DeAngelo’s “Cocky and Funny” approach, “canned” openers, storytelling, or teasing: “I couldn’t help but notice you… staring at me.” What you need to do is practice, practice, practice. You’ll gain experience from the ways people react (many will be appreciative! They like the change of pace), and soon, you’ll find that approaching becomes easy. Your confidence will grow because you’re no longer treading unsafe territory, and you’ll have the tools to talk to any girl in any situation! 

ATTRACTING WOMEN OF HIGH QUALITY

                                               

A few days ago, the Oscars just played. Men all across the world had the opportunity to see some of the most beautiful women in the world dressed in their finest and looking their best walking alongside some of the most macho men you have ever seen. It’s highly likely that the thought I wish I could have someone like her might have crossed your mind, even for a brief second. Understand this now – it is possible, indeed with the right changes, it is probable for you to date women of high caliber like you see on TV.

If you turn on your television sets and gaze carefully at their escorts and partners, you might begin to piece together what it is exactly about these men that attract the models and the actresses to them. Two words can sum it up entirely – high quality. To attract the high quality women, you must be a high quality male yourself. Don’t put yourself out of the running so quickly though – it’s not as daunting a task as it may seem.

One of the key differences between high quality males and low quality males is the concept of value. Low quality men generally tend to suck value from other, seeking to hoard as much as they can to make themselves appear as cool as possible in the eyes of others. They may not do this consciously but on a deeper level, this is exactly what is happening, and it often repulses those whom they leech off of.   

High value men on the other hand are considered value givers.

They are so full of value that they can afford to freely give it away and better the lives of those around them. People will naturally gravitate around them as no one can resist the pull of a high value person. Simply give yourself freely and help everyone feel comfortable and have fun whenever they are around you. Be the party and the people come to you.

 It’s also important to treat these high quality women as normal. You might go “Oh, but she’s different from the rest and special, I should treat her differently to keep her as long as I can!” No. If you lived a life where models were constantly in your life, you would not treat them any more differently than any other women. Their beauty is simply another part of them, and one which should ultimately be irrelevant. It’s easy for any woman to look beautiful with a little makeup or surgery. 

Once you stop being intimidated by a woman’s appearance, you’ll begin to notice that you attract pretty women as easily as you once did the less attractive.

In the same vein, you have to show them that they’re not just another pretty face to you. These women have spent all their lives being hit on simply because they are slightly more attractive than other women. They will almost inevitably think that you’re interested in them simply for how they look – listen gentlemen, if all you wanted was to have sex with an incredibly attractive woman, you can simply higher a high class hooker for a night. Find what truly makes this woman unique and convey this sentiment to her. Make her understand that you value her as a person and not simply as another notch on your bedpost.

Lastly, a high quality man is not afraid of the repercussions of antagonizing his woman. These women will test you to see if you will stand up for yourself and what you believe in or if you will simply bend like a willow in the wind and cave in to her every demand. By standing up for yourself, you’re giving her someone she can trust and respect and therefore will want to be with.

The key to getting these high quality women is summed up in a single word – integrity. 

If you wish to be seeing these women on a consistent basis, you must understand that they are in essence no different from any other woman you’ve met. You should always act in a way that is true to yourself  and upholds your morals and principles, and above all, you should never compromise these standards for any woman, no matter how attractive they are. When women realize that you can trust yourself, they will trust you and before you know it, you will find yourself consistently with women of quality.

HOW TO GET A WOMAN'S PHONE NUMBER AND EMAIL ADDRESS WITHIN THREE MINUTE OF MEETING HER

Let me start off by telling you something interesting: I've personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I've found that EMAIL addresses are far better (I still get the phone number too, of course).

Let me explain.

I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.

If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute or two (if I'm in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that

GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESN'T EQUAL SUCCESS.

You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal experience, women act different on the phone than they do in person.

When you call a woman for the first time, she'll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It's almost like she's a different person than the one you met.

I've found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It's almost as if women appreciate it that you've taken the time to think about what you're going to say when you write an email to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.

The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered anytime. If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be answered anytime. And I've found that emails are answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.

HERE'S THE HOW TO:

After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I'll often say something like "Well, it was nice meeting you. I'm going to get back to my friends."

They usually don't know what to do, as they're used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say "It was nice meeting you too..." Then, just as I'm turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say "HEY! Do you have email?"

The "HEY!" is a bit surprising, and "Do you have email" is non-threatening. In fact, I'm technically asking her if she HAS email, not if she'll GIVE IT TO ME.

If she says "yes," I take out a pen and paper and say "Great, write it down for me" and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the 'yes' that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they've almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE'S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say "Write your number down there too."

When you ask for email, it's very low risk for a woman, so she'll think "Fine, I'll do that."

Most women will give out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just not answer.

The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE they're in the middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human behavior.

She's already mentally said "OK, I'll give you my email address"... and she's in the middle of writing it down. When you say "And just write your number down there too" it's only NATURAL to just write it.

In other words, it's a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.

Here's a great add-on to make sure you're getting a real phone number and not a pager or voicemail:

As she's writing down her phone number I say "Is this a number that you actually answer?" If she looks at me and hesitates, or says that it's her "voicemail or pager number," then I say "Look, write your real number down. It's going to be OK, I'll only call you nine times a day..." They laugh and usually give me their real number.

Now, if she answers my first question and says "No, I don't have email" then I bust on them and say "Well, do you have electricity?" This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.

Then I say "Well, OK then. I like email better, but I'll take your regular phone number. It's so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days."

Just realize that all you have to do is ask.

Like I said, I've tried all kinds of things. And I've gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. I've gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or two – no kidding!

Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response.

Many guys have asked me "But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?" I've never had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesn't give it to you, then she also knew why you asked.

Just assume that this is the case.

If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you'll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.

Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it's small, classy, and women love it!

HOW TO PICK UP A GIRL IN CLASS

The bell rings and you walk into class. You look around at all the beautiful girls around you, in front of you, beside you, and you begin to think… “If only I knew how to pick up a girl in class…”

Picking up girls in school is not harder than picking up girls elsewhere. In fact, in many ways it can be much, much easier. You are exchanging the high intensity and craziness of clubs and the awkwardness of approaching complete strangers out of the blue for an environment where, should you play your cards right, you can pick up a girl in a seemingly natural method.

College game is essentially following the rules of a normal pick up, except that

your techniques are far more effective. Compare starting conversation a girl in class with starting a conversation with a girl on the street or at the bus stop. What do you have to talk to a girl at a bus stop? Hopefully a lot, as you are trying to pick her up nonetheless, but how can you transition into what you want to talk about in a seemingly natural way? It is definitely doable but much harder than it need be. Compare that to the following:

“Hey, can I borrow a pen?”

“Um… sure.”

“Awesome! Thanks… what’s up?” (transition into your topic) People are looking to make friends in their classes, especially during the beginning of the semester when no one really knows anyone in the class and everyone is still getting their bearings. By being the friendly, sociable guy in class, you are greatly increasing your chances of picking up.

Everyone’s tired of work after class. This is the perfect time to go on an instate-date. If you feel you’ve built enough of a connection with a girl during a couple of classes, try and switch locations to somewhere where you can communicate freely. By moving to a new location and spending time with them there, you will also be creating the feeling in her that you guys have known each other for much longer than you actually have.

One thing that will help you pick up girls in the long term is your role as a leader.

Women want to be with the guy who is confident around others and self assured. Simply making an effort to get to know people in your class will attract attention to yourself, and women will find it very attractive if you can prove yourself to be capable of leading interactions with others, be it with males or females. In fact, it doesn’t matter what

the group you are with is like – if you can prove yourself to be the natural “Alpha Male” of the group, women will be attracted to you.

Picking up girls in class is not harder than picking up girls elsewhere – on the contrary, it is often a lot easier. With the confidence to begin and lead interactions, women will notice you and become attracted to you. The opportunities to pick up are far more abundant in class than anywhere else and in fact, you might just run the risk of becoming addicted to classroom game, thanks to the ease with which you can apply it.

HOW TO MAKE HER FEEL COMFORTABLE

Every man desires to be that attractive guy that women want. We spend hours up hours trying to figure out what is the ideal way to attract a woman, to get her interested in you. Yet, most men overlook a simple fact when they pursue their seduction education. 

Regardless of how attracted a woman is to you, she will not be going home withyou if she doesn’t feel comfortable with you.

 

If she doesn’t think that you’re the type of guy who will protect her and treat her as a woman, she will leave you and find someone who will. The trick to really getting her to want you is to learn how to make her feel comfortable.

A mistake many men make when they want to get to know a woman is to ask her an endless array of questions. They try this in an attempt to find commonalities with the women they pursue, an interest they share, a person they both know, a place they both go, anything that can lead to a more in depth conversation. This often has the opposite effect on them though. No woman wants to be on the other side of an interrogation. Instead of assaulting her with an endless array of questions, make solid statements that she can respond to. 

State your feelings and observations instead of requesting a response. Don’t ask “What music do you listen to?” – say “I love 60s rock music.” By making statements instead of asking questions, you immediately set yourself apart from the other men and make it clear that you do not care about her reaction, while still allowing her to find commonalities with you. You are a man in your own right and you are proud of it.

Another way to make a woman feel comfortable in your presence is to reveal yourself bit by bit. When talking to her, don’t be afraid to share with her deep, personal stories about your life. The more emotionally charged the story is to you, the more your woman will feel, and even almost experience, the same emotions that you felt. By making yourself emotionally vulnerable to her, you are almost giving her the power over you and making it clear to her that you are willing to give her insight into your life. Women don’t want to be the experience – they want to share an experience with someone else. They want to be able to understand you and truly feel a connection with you, something which you make possible by sharing stories about yourself with her.

A skill that most men lack when it comes to picking up women is the ability to listen. So focused are they in getting what they want and making the woman see just how great a catch they are, many men just don’t care about what the woman says. Women can sense this about a man. Nothing is more frustrating and pushes people away than if people don’t listen to you. Hear what a girl tells you and remember it. Most men don’t even bother remember the names of the girls they approach! Listen to her and don’t judge what she tells you. If you remain nonjudgmental, women will trust you more and open up to you, revealing some of their innermost secrets because they know that you won’t think any less of them for it.

The secret to making women around you feel comfortable is simple. By appearing open and non-threatening you immediately reveal yourself to be someone honest, while listening to her and being non-judgmental about what she tells you makes yourself trustworthy in her eyes. With practice, you can build up strong connections with many women  who will always feel comfortable and trusting of you, something that the majority of men are unable to do.

HOW TO MAKE A GIRL HAPPY

If you’re one of those guys who want to know how to make a girl happy because you want her to like you, then stop right here. Making a girl happy will not make her like you, but once she likes you, making her happy is a great way to keep your relationship going strong. So this article is dedicated to those already in a relationship, not to those trying to pick up girls, that’s another read. 

The first principle when making a girl happy is that YOU must be happy first.

Happiness is contagious, and if you’re happy with life, your energy will affect people around you  in a positive way. To understand, let’s look at the opposite. Have you ever been around someone who was really depressed? This person might of started to talk to you in a low tone, telling you about how bad their life was, and then you suddenly start to sympathize and tell them how bad your life is in return. Soon enough, you’re BOTH depressed! Well, the same applies to happiness, if you’re excited about a project you’re working on, or even about something as simple as a sunny day, it will be contagious. People LOVE being around people who are happy. Its addictive and attractive.

The second principle is that is that its all about the little things.

 A small surprise note, a random short email, anything unexpected and SMALL will go a long way to making a girl very  happy. Its the little things that matter the most in life. Big things on the other hand rarely have the same effect. Buying someone a car will make them feel like they owe you, or like you’re trying to buy them something. On the other hand, leaving them a small note that simply says “hi I’m thinking of you” ( don’t actually write that ) will make them feel special. Again, its important to keep the first concept in mind, when you do small things, make sure it makes YOU happy as well. If you *hate* a DVD, don’t rent it because she likes it and then be miserable as you both watch it. On the other hand, if you wouldn’t mind watching it, and she really wants to, then you can surprise her with it. 

To wrap it up, be happy first and others will follow. Afterwards, keep in mind its the small things in life that affect us, not the big things. One of the small things you could do today to make the girl of your dreams be happy is to read up on what really attracts women. Think about it, what women really want is to be massively attracted to the guy of their dream. Wouldn’t you be happy if you were really attracted to the woman of your dreams? I know I am. If you’re looking on how to become that person, how you can create massive attraction and truly be happy in life, then I strongly recommend you read Double Your Dating by David Deangelo. He knows exactly how to make a girl happy and can teach you much more in depth in his book than I ever could in a few paragraphs, which explains why its currently the #1 ranked Seductionbook

HOW TO MAKE A GIRL FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU





                                                          

The thought of learning how to make a girl fall in love with you is a disturbing one.

Love is a huge emotion that can radically and completely dictate someone’s life. If it was

possible to perform a few magical steps in order to make someone fall in love with you, we would live in a harsh world of broken hearts. Uh oh… don’t we already? 

You cannot make anyone do anything and you certainly cannot make anyone love you. The more you try to make someone love you, the less they will. Its kind of a catch-22 in that way but fortunately there are two aspects you can concentrate on to help you along the way. 

What do you love in life? Usually its the things that make you happy and the things that we attribute the most value to. Keeping in mind these two aspects of human nature, we can therefore  conclude that in order for someone to love us, we must make them happy and we must be valuable to them. 

Let’s work on making them happy first, its really simple and is overlooked by most people. The simple rule to making someone happy is to be happy yourself. Being happy is contagious and people in your presence will automatically feel similar to you. If you’re happy about life, then the people around you will want to have you around them as well. If you’re always down, depressed or angry, then you are making yourself very hard to love. 

Example #1: Think of someone that you love or loved. Imagine them in your mind until you can see a picture of their face. In this picture, are they happy or sad? It’s very likely that in the mental picture that you have, they are smiling or happy. If it worked for you, then it should also work for others. 

The concept when pondering about how to make a girl fall in love with you is value. The things you love the most consequently have a lot of value. Can you really fall in love with something that has no value? Things that are replaceable, or are easily attainable have little value in our lives. So make yourself valuable and people will love you. Being valuable isn’t as hard as people think. 

The concept of value is relative, in an organization; the most valuable person is the boss even if in another situation, he could be completely insignificant. This is why so many secretaries are attracted to their boss. He has the most value. Let’s take this concept and apply it in practical situations. 

Example #2, If you’re in school, then the most valuable person will be the person that is most respected by his peers. This can be the football star among cheerleaders, or the smart guy who gets the best grades. He can also be the guy who makes the girls laugh the most, or the guy that has the best house parties that everyone wants to attend. 

In a work environment, the most valuable person can once again, be the social funny guy that everyone wants to hang out with, or the boss, or the sharp guy that the boss respects the most. 

But… what if the girl I like doesn’t know about these social situations? Well then… Tell her about your day! Although not as efficient, just telling her about your daily interactions (in a non-gloating way) can be an effective way of communicating your value.



WHAT DO GIRLS WANT

 If there’s one question that frustrates most men, it’s “What do girls want?” Well first let me tell you, most of them don’t know what they want themselves! However, it’s not because they don’t know what they want that they don’t want something (try reading that sentence 2-3 times quickly!). 

Girls have many physical and emotional needs that are well covered by just about every single article on dating, so we won’t go there. Instead, we’ll concentrate on the one thing that girls universally want: Excitement!

Yes, it’s true. Most girls (and guys for that matter) are completely bored out of their minds!  Every day, the same mindless routine. You wake up, go to school/work, watch TV, talk with friends and go to sleep. Repeat!  

Even really social women are bored. They’ll always go out to the same places, with the same guys, etc. They CRAVE diversity. If you can provide excitement and diversity, then women will chase you. They’ll NEED to have you. 

That’s why some guys have so many girls calling them.

That’s why the ‘bad-boys’ get all the girls.

That’s why girls will go with the jerk (among other things). It’s just that he’s more fun to them because they break the social norm and are unpredictable. 

So does this mean you have to be a jerk? No way! Just be unpredictable. Don’t do it for her, do it for YOU! Being unpredictable is fun and not only will she enjoy it, but you will as well. Make it a point to do things you haven’t done before. Force yourself to do random things that you don’t even expect yourself to do. Don’t think about it… just do it.

When you’re talking to a girl, if you’re just like every single other guy,then you’ll be forgettable. No really, even if you make her laugh and things seem to be going well, unless you can stand out, then there’s no reason for her to remember you longer than the next guy. 

I’m a big advocate of being genuine, and one of the best things you can do for yourself and for your potential girl is to create an exciting life. If you’re staying at home all the time, working your 9-5 jobs, then figure out how to spice up your life quickly! Otherwise, you’ll wake up at 50 wondering where your life went. Instead, take unexpected decisions in your life and build up the exciting part of yourself. 

Really, even though girls can want a million things, they all crave a little excitement from time to time. So the next time you ask yourself “What do girls want?”, know that the answer is a little excitement.