WHAT TO TALK ABOUT WITH GIRLS

You’ve just done your approach perfectly. The girl is beautiful and all her attention is

on you as she waits expectantly for you to say something to her. You open your mouth, suave and smooth like James Bond when you suddenly realize – you have no idea what to talk about with girls. Sound like a familiar situation? It’s a question that many men ask themselves – how can they maintain a conversation with a beautiful stranger, one that will keep women engaged and emotionally invested as they get to know each other.

One thing to understand is that it is not so important what you say but rather how you say it. The delivery is far more important than the content. Consider saying “Hi, my name is John” very shyly, with your body all closed in, and saying the same thing except with your chest thrust out in a powerful voice. How you deliver what you have to say makes a very big difference.  The way to deliver something confidently and with strength is to

talk about something that you are passionate about and want to talk about, and in fact this is what your aim should be in any interaction; to talk about what you want to talk about.

When girls hear the conviction and excitement in your voice and realize you’re talking about something you love, they are being given an invitation into your world, not a world where you are trying to impress them or seduce them but a world where you are completely genuine, something that women find very attractive.

There are certain topics that will hook a woman’s attention far more effectively than others. One theme that usually piques a woman’s curiosity are emotionally charged topics such as relationships, drama, and general social dynamics. These topics will hook a woman’s attention and in fact, a lot of classic pickup lines are built around an opener that involves these topics, but for them to work effectively, you must be invested in these

topics yourself. It’s no use asking about your best friend’s cheating girlfriend if you really don’t care about their answer – take their response and simply continue the conversation off that. The branching possibilities are limitless and you can choose to lead the conversation in any specific way that you desire.

Another thing that will improve your interactions is humour. This is not to say that you should be spouting joke after joke in an attempt to make her laugh – on the contrary, this is simply seeking a reaction from a woman and is more likely to make you seem like a try-hard. Instead, seek to amuse yourself. Anything can be funny if you look at it in the right way, and if you can find fun and enjoyment in everything around you, women will

love you. This is not to say that you must never tell a joke though – if you think a joke is funny and want to share it with the woman, by all means go ahead. You’re sharing your sense of humour and what you find funny with her and women will love

you for that.

People often wonder if deep, personal topics have a place in conversation with women. Yes, they do, but only at the right time. If your try and get very deep and personal in the first few minutes of meeting someone new, people will get slightly creeped out. If, on the other hand, you wait until you’re both enjoying each other’s company and want to get to know each other better then such emotionally heavy topics can build a strong rapport between the two of you. Gentlemen, don’t talk about euthanasia and politics, no matter how passionate you are about those topics – those things are only going to give you arguments and bad feelings. Talk about feelings and emotions that you have, life experiences and personal stories. These are the type of things that will build a strong sense of trust and comfort in women.

Women don’t want you to try and invade their world with interrogation-like questions.

They want to experience your reality, be a part of your party. Your conversation should be a gateway into your world and you should talk to women about topics that interest you and help you build that strong connection with her. What you talk about with a girl should ultimately be an expression of you, because this is the person you want the girl to

get to know.

WHAT TO SAY AFTER YOU SAY HELLO

A problem that many men seem to suffer from is not knowing what to  say after they’ve said “Hello”. If once you’ve initiated conversation your mind goes blank and you don’t know what to say then what follows is a guide for you. Don’t worry; we’ve all been there before from it at some point, especially in the presence of beautiful women.

After you’ve started talking to her, the first thing you need to do is make sure that her attention is focused on you and not elsewhere. Perhaps the easiest way to hook her attention is with a quick observation about her. Simply notice something different, odd or out of place on her and make a comment about it. Ask her to tell you the story about it and LISTEN to her – after all, every person’s favorite topic is themselves! 

You don’t want her to be talk endlessly without giving yourself a chance to display your own worth though. If there’s a lull in the conversation or if she says something that would lead naturally into it, tell her a story! Talk to her about the exciting adventures you’ve been on, the crazy things you’ve done or a funny tale you might have heard somewhere. This gives you the opportunity to demonstrate to her that you’re just as

interesting and unique as she is. Talk about the things YOU love, your passions and hobbies, and give her the chance to get to know you on a much more personal level.

If you ask any girl what they want in a guy, they’ll say “someone who makes me laugh”. When you meet women, you want them to remember you as someone they had a good time with and nothing shouts out pleasure more than laughter. Show her your funny side –tease her a bit, tell her jokes and funny little stories. Make her understand that you are

not intimidated by her beauty at all and that you can relax and have fun with her just as you would with any of your other friends.

One small thing that most men seem to think is unnecessary is fluff talk. Asking questions about the woman, simple things such as what she does for a living or what she studies, has garnered a bad reputation when in fact it can be a valuable asset. Every moment spent talking to her and finding out about her helps strengthen the connection the two of you are building.  It can also give you time to think when you feel that there’s a lull in the conversation. It’s true, you shouldn’t ask these questions and actively TRY to seek rapport but don’t be afraid of using them either – if you’re curious about her, ask!

It’s true, the first few times you practice these new techniques, your old habits re-appear and wipe your mind clean like a blank slate. Revel in these moments because before you know it, it will be completely gone and you will be able to talk to women as easily and freely as with any of your closest friends. As time progresses, you’ll find that your stories

become more polished with practice, that women laugh longer and harder at the same jokes you make because you’re more comfortable telling them and find them genuinely funny. All it takes is a little bit of effort and before you know it, you’ll never have to think “what do I say now?” again.

HOW TO TALK TO GIRLS

As a guy, learning how to talk to girls can be one of the most challenging and rewarding skill he can acquire during his lifetime. Would you agree that being able to carry a proper conversation with a girl would solvea LOT of problems ?

I know many guys agree that this is one of the most neglected aspects when it comes to dating advice, and yet, it is so critical to succeed!

One of the biggest issues among men that are struggling with women is that they

“Just don’t know what to talk about!”.

I feel you.

 

I’ve had that awkward silence too.

 

The moment where something SHOULD of been said, but it was not.

The moment where you both kind of look at each other and think “ok this is not good”

When this happens, women will often think:  “We just don’t connect” and it’s at that point that the date goes downhill. 

Actually, that’s probably one of the biggest fear that men have and it’s the reason why a lot of guys won’t even go start a conversation!

The reason is that most people try to figure out the “ideal topic of conversation” beforehand. Asif, if you were to introduce this ideal topic, you would both have a wonderful time talking aboutit for hours and hours and eventually the woman would fall in love with you, just because you had the right topic of conversation.   Sound silly?

That’s because it is. 

Yet people STILL try to find that ideal conversation topic!   

So do yourself a favor, do ME a favor, stop it and just start off with any conversation topic. Usually bad ones will do, and as the conversation progresses, you can steer the conversation to any topics you wish to discuss. 

Alright, because we all like to be spoon fed information, I’ll break it down even more. 

I realize that saying “Any Topic Will Do” will not help most guys because you’re probably still wondering.. “OK, but what do I talk about?” Well start by things that are relevant to you first.

It’s really hard to be relevant to other people, and people with high value tend to think of

themselves anyways, so STARTING with a topic that is relevant in your life is always a great way to start a conversation. At the same time, it will sub-consciously convey values of self-worth and confidence which are both attractive.

For example, if you’re on your way to go grocery shopping, start with that!

“Hey, I was just watching the cooking channel and I was inspired to make some *insert funny meal*, so now I’m going to get the secret ingredient at the grocery store”. 

Now it’s likely that she doesn’t really care about you going grocery shopping, but if the story, your thought process, is interesting enough, then it will be entertaining to talk about. When in doubt, talk about your thought process about an activity and it will ALWAYS provide natural conversation. 

People are bored, stories about your life can be as entertaining as watching that last episode of Lost, House or even Desperate House Wives.

Conversations are like fires, once they are ignited with the right kindling, there’s no stopping them. Trust me when I tell you, you’ll KNOW when to change topic, it will come naturally.

Until then, just continue talking about what interests you the most, because if it’s interesting to YOU, you’ll talk about it in an enthusiastic and entertaining manner. 

The next thing you wonder how to talk to girls, just keep in mind that conversations are like fire, they need to be slowly started with little light pieces before you can move on to the heavy stuff!